Let’s get one thing straight:
Choosing your first toy isn’t about being inexperienced.
It’s about being ready to choose yourself.
This is not about learning to orgasm.
This is about learning to listen.
And if that feels big, that’s because it is.
Because for most of us, this is what we were taught:
• Give first.
• Please others.
• Put your needs last, if at all.
Even in sex, especially in sex, the focus was rarely:
What do you want?
Maybe you’ve tried to answer that question before and got stuck.
Maybe you’ve picked up toys before, cheap, flashy, half-hearted.
Maybe you used them once and shoved them into a drawer.
Not because you’re broken.
Because no one taught you how to choose pleasure for yourself without guilt.
The truth is: this is not about “getting it right.”
This is about getting closer.
Closer to your body.
Closer to your wants.
Closer to the parts of you that were never given space to be loud.
And that’s why your first real toy isn’t about the toy at all.
So where do you actually begin?
You begin by dropping the idea that you’re behind.
You’re not “late.”
You’re not “less experienced.”
You’re not “catching up.”
You’re exactly on time.
Because you’re here, asking the right question:
What would it feel like to choose pleasure without explaining myself?
5 Things No One Tells You About Buying Your First Toy
1. It’s not about knowing what you like. It’s about finding out.
Most brands will try to sell you “the perfect first toy.”
But that’s not how it works.
Your body will tell you what works, for you, in this moment.
And it might tell you something different next week.
That’s normal.
Pleasure changes. You change. The goal isn’t to lock yourself into one way of feeling good.
The goal is to stay curious.
2. Start on the outside (if you want to).
Penetration can be optional.
Clitoral stimulation is the most common, and often the easiest, way to start.
It’s direct. It’s simple. It’s yours.
This isn’t about what you “should” do.
It’s about what feels good when no one’s watching.
3. “Beginner-friendly” is just marketing.
You don’t need something pink, plastic and barely vibrating unless you actually want it.
Your first toy can be bold, soft, powerful, quiet, playful, serious. It can be whatever feels right to you.
You’re the only one who decides what’s “too much.”
And you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
4. Your desire will change, let it.
Sometimes you’ll want light, fast, playful.
Other times you’ll want slow, deep, grounding.
Hormones shift. Emotions shift. Your body shifts. That’s human.
Don’t trap yourself into thinking pleasure has to look the same every time.
It won’t. And that’s good news.
5. You don’t have to figure this out alone.
We get it, the world makes this awkward.
Shops are overwhelming. Reviews are confusing.
And most of the advice out there? Either medicalised or meaningless.
That’s why at The Right Spot, we offer real guidance on WhatsApp.
No judgment. No scripts. No pushy upsells.
Just women talking to women, about what actually feels good, and what doesn’t.
Click the WhatsApp button to message us privately.
So, what do you choose?
If you’re ready to explore, we’ve made it easy.
Our collection is built for women like you:
Curious. Independent. Done with clichés.
Gentle? Bold? Something in-between?
We’ve got you.
This is not about the toy.
It’s about what happens when you give yourself permission to choose.
To explore, not perform.
To listen, not push through.
To notice, not numb.
This isn’t about becoming “better at sex.”
It’s about becoming better at being with yourself.
That’s where real confidence starts.
That’s where sovereignty starts.
And that’s exactly where we’ll meet you.
